Anonymous asks: my abuser (a nonbinary white afab transmasc whateva) used the word 'tender' all the time to refer to himself. i've not met anyone who uses that word since i left him but i think if i did i'd run the other way. SERIOUS red flag.
im sorry you had to deal with that, anonfar too many of the misgoynistic trans mascs i know irl actively describe themselves as “tender” in an effort to be all “im not like one of those gross cis dudes!” obviously tender is just one word & there are plenty of folks who ARE tender & other synonyms who aren’t completely awful, the point here is that abusers tend to make a REALLY BIG DEAL about how they are really sensitive “good” people and the overuse of “tender” is yet another way in which i have seen shitty entitled behavior become rewarded & normalized
This sounds just like the clown I want to punch.